Thankful in May 2015

May 2015 Gratitude:

1. Sunday school women who pray over me and bring my family a casserole when I will be with Mom in the hospital

2. So proud of Mary Jayne's theatrical abilities put to good use for Jesus!

3. Thankful for a family picnic together on a beautiful spring day

4. The pull of the Holy Spirit who sends tears and a heart for missions

5. Watching my brother tenderly care for my mom in the hospital

6. Thandful that our kids won an award for scripture memory

7. Cars that keep running

8. Friends and family that visit mom while she is in the hospital - notes, balloons, flowers, cards

9. Family camp silly songs, blob bouncing, zip-lining, fireworks, square dancing

10. Kids handing me a flower on Mother's Day

11. My generous husband's desire to send kids to camp who otherwise would not be able to experience God's love and     message in this way.    

12. Mom getting to come home from the hospital!

13. An encouraging solid line-drive hit for B

14. Another day with mom

15.Listening with mama pride to the eighth grade orchestra play "Pink Panther"

16. A thirty second cuddle before we're off in different directions

17. Brennan's hearty laugh

18. Cool air and an orderly (for the moment) home

19. So proud of girls who haver scribed long a ad hard to make beautiful music

20. The wonder of flight and air travel

21. Key lime pie and the search for the best recipe on the island

22. Having child care (and drivers) so that A and I can reconnect

23. The amazing blue-green waters of the Keys

24. An opportunity to exercise on the beach - yoga under palm trees

25. The opportunity to try a paddle board yoga class at sunset

26. Memorial Day - celebrating those who gave their lives for our freedom

27. Barry's help with pharmacies- the gift of having a friend who is a pediatrician

28. Taking Natalia to choose a new puzzle and finding the right size frame for the Irish one she finished

29. Finding clothes bargains; cheap thrills at the consignment boutique

30. Mom giving L a haircut

Thankful in April 2015

April 2015 Gratitude:

1. The trampoline getting good use (anything but computer games!)

2. Family pulling together around Mom during her cancer diagnosis

3. L being able to fins a dress she liked with Grandmama

4. The little gift of a tapestry "DO NOT DISTURB" sign from Jane

5. God holding off the rain when I lead Pilates for FIA

6. Beautiful dogwoods and azaleas abloom in the south

7. Having LIFE in His name

8. Being able to lead a good Bible Study lesson for Sunday School

9. Being able to sleep by the whale sharks at the Georgia Aquarium on a school field trip

10. Being able to go with B to tour Turner Field and see baseball through the eyes of someone who plays

11. A not-too-packed Spring Saturday

12. The whole family at the ball filed cheering (or at least present for moral support)

13. An amazing number of honors classes offered at our public schools

14. Fresh picked strawberries in season

15. The possibility of good friends for L next year at RNE

16. Pretty colored toenail polish

17. Helpfulness from the school office staff

18. Zumba class with Mary Jayne at school; running with B in the rain; sweaty red-faced kids

19. Seeing African dance and drums

20. Mom, Trey, and Michelle together, sharing a pew

21. A day to sit with Mom and discuss the future

22. L feeling pretty for the school dance

23. A's safe travel back and forth from Houston

24.people who come to Zumba FIA in the park, even when it's raining

25. Free henna tattoos and food samples at international day at the library

26.Picnic in the park with the Sunday school class

27. Buying sweets from the candy barrels with Mom at Mast General Store

28. Watching kids we've known since bit party walk aisles to receive academic awards

29. B's happiness to go to the library and pick up the next book in a series

30. Being able to drive to grocery stores and search for "Grapples" even if we didn't find any

Thankful in March 2015

March 2015 Gratitude:

1. Rain giving us an extra night at home together

2. Gardenia-scented candles

3. Riding to an event with girlfriends

4. A husband and IT coordinator who could recover my files when they crashed

5. Snubbing Pilates and having someone I didn't know tell me how glad they were that I had taught the class

6. Women's Ministry: all the hands coming together to pull off an event

7. The delight of being given the opportunity to speak to speak and share what I'm learning.

8. Bringing Gzranddaddy joy by having a seventieth birthday dinner; enjoying the family photoshoot

9. A blanket and back support on a cold baseball game bleacher

10. Meeting working girl Stephanie for lunch

11. Encouraging a friend with a new baby

12. Asking a neighbor if she'd like to go on a walk

13. A vehicle that works again (to drive family all over the planet)

14. A rainy Saturday to get to stay in and get some work done plus time to play

15. Having a room to share with guests

16. Watching a rare family movie together on the couch

17. Making apple and key lime pies for Pi day- making math teachers smile

18. Meeting with Soul Sisters at Betsy's house

19. thankful that we are both have each other to parent when we need to "tag-out" emotionally or physically

20. THANKFUL THAT MOM'S CANCER WAS DETECTED EARLY!!!

21. Trey being able to stay at the hospital during Mom's biopsy

22. A friend who brings me chocolates and a journal when she hears that I've relieved bad news

23. Very's pizza night shared with family friends; building a relationship with our favorite waitress

24. A date with my husband trying a new restaurant

25. Having coffee with mom at her kitchen table

26. Kids playing outside on a beautiful day on the trampoline

27. Medicine

28. Hearing my kids giggle

29. Watching one kid read to another

30. A night of my man's attention and affection

31. The promise held in a new day to try and get things right

Thankful in February 2015

February 2015"s Gratitude:

1. Watching my husband kneel by our bed and begin the day in prayer

2. Watching our kids clean the hamster cages together

3. Laurel's excellent study skills

4. A job transition handled well with no hard feelings

5. Andy massaging sore muscles

6. Hearing my son say "I love you, Mom" when he leaves for school

7. Watching my hurricane of a man take the girls on a "forced family fun" bike ride

8. Thankful for Andy's cleaning the van

9. Thankful for an evening of connection

10. Thankful for encouraging feedback from my Zumba and Pilates classes

11. A good book to read borrowed from the library

12. A husband who delivers flowers to my mom and the girls for Valentine's

13. A half-day of school when the kids can kick back and not be rushed or hustled

14. Sweetness shown by (and to) neighbors, family, and friends

15. An afternoon AND evening at home with my husband; trying to figure out a plan to date and enjoy one another instead of being two ships that pass in the night

16. Heat on very cold days after being bundled up on the farm

17. Andy's professional counsel for Maria's business ministry to trafficked women

18. Choosing to press snooze and snuggle in strong arms for five more minutes

19. Happy to have Laurel complete her first violin audition in spite of performance anxiety

20. The creation of a romance idea notebook for date inspiration

21.Elephant rides for the kids and opportunity to get together as a family

22. A church that thinks, plans, and prays over major decisions for years in advance

23. A chance to go on field trips with my children and learn new things myself

24. Seeing snowflakes with six sides stuck to my grey wool jacket

25. Emergency subs provided

26. Safe travels home through "snowmeggedon"

27. A double date with friends

28. Chocolate peanut butter protein shakes that actually taste good

Thankful for January 2015

As fall leaves flurry in my neighborhood, I began to feel this year draw to a close. I stand in my yard in bare feet (this is actually a thing: groundedness) which is not very hard considering that in South Carolina it can still be eighty degrees and have the leaves fall at the same time.  

I decided to blog my daily gratitude as a way of reviewing the upside of my life since I have been frustrated lately. My messy, imperfect life still has moments every day if I choose to have eyes to look for them. These are recorded in hand-written journals, but if my family ever takes an interest in our everyday history, it will be easier to access. I don't expect my kids to care very much, but maybe a granddaughter one day will think this is interesting. Kind of like the antiques my grandmother loved, my parents didn't care for and I bring back. :-)

Beginning with January 2015: I have much to be thankful for.

1. The kids laughing after making scavenger hunts for one another

2. Enjoying a day with mom at her house- making lunch, washing dishes, drinking coffee at her kitchen table, visiting

3. Discovering that you can use Bed, Bath, and Beyond coupons at Buy Buy Baby and saving $50 on a group gift

4. An afternoon to read a book in cosy covers

5. Watching a beautiful full moonset

6. "When morning Gilda the skies" - rosy pink clouds while driving carpool

7. Being able to curl up with Andy after his long late committee meeting

8. A fireplace that works;

9. A conversation with a woman at a thrift store, collecting blankets for Syrian refugees

10. My snuggly and warm man, down comforters, central heat, fuzzy socks

11. Seasoned mamas sharing collective wisdom with a new mom

12. My son's persistent efforts to invite neighbor friends to church; a heart stirred for the people of South Sudan

13. People praying for me on filming a short video

14. Gas prices back under $2 a gallon: $32 a tank!

15. Being able to meet my boys for lunch

16. Being able to text girlfriends for recipes

17. A Woodwick sputtering candle

18. Sharing my story with the third grade girls; having a nice dinner together for Mimi's birthday

19. Grandmama taking some of the kids to a movie

20. A good night's sleep

21. Being able to lend some guidance on the layout of a daughter's science project layout (but not do the work for her)

22. Leading a Zumba working on a women's retreat breakout session

23. Grateful for like-minded women to lead in the Breathe study

24. Having great report cards to celebrate with a personal pizza at Very's

25. A little blob of chocolate fondue on top of a crunchy waffle; Discussions with our children about 2 Peter 1:5-7 character after dinner

26. A warm Hook-and-Ladder ham and Swiss sandwich after church on Sunday; A sweet feeling of community in Sunday School

27. Laughing around Betsy's kitchen table during lunch with friends

28. An impromptu slow dance in the kitchen at breakfast before A rushes put the door

29. Laurel winning second place at the science fair and Marwin winning the innovation award at the International Builders Show

30. MJ having the opportunity to play Morgan; lunch with an old neighborhood friend; finding my lost gym phone

31. Mandi's willingness to be Mary Jayne's speech coach;

Teaching our kids to reflect on God's provision and practice gratitude. Even if there are eye rolls and the lists often sound the same, I think it helps for us to develop this discipline when it's so easy to get caught up in comparison and dissatisfaction.

Struggles of an Idealistic Mom

I struggle with idealism and romanticism. It's straight from my personality profile. I want to work hard at family life and have things roll along smoothly. I want to organize and clean and be able to find things without a mad rush out the door. But, I live with six people of different personalities than mine, and we all want different things. So sometimes I just need to shed a few tears for the way I wish life were and then move on to seeing what can be done about it. We've had the talks. The charts of responsibilities are posted, and I am tired of managing more than mothering. Really tired at a soul level. I'm going for humor now to see if that gets through.




There are more gallons of milk in the outside fridge just waiting for someone to replenish this almost empty carton with two sips left in the jug. Laziness overcomes my family every time and it leaves me slack-jawed. Empty boxes gaping with their lids wide open in the pantry. How am I raising people who think that someone else should always handle it? Same goes for the dishes scattered in the sink when the dishwasher is right there waiting to receive them. Or the clothes that were folded but are now pushed to the floor and thought to be dirty again. Or the shoes that never make it to the shoebox that we built for that purpose. Or the recycling that is pitched on the trash. Or the food I made dumped in the trash with no thought to the cost or labor involved. Or the dog everyone wanted but only I remember to feed. Tears of frustration and annoyance.

I feel like a failure.

There is no transfer of the lessons I am trying to teach over and over again. Or, if there is, I cannot yet see them.

Next verse, same as the first.

The aftermath of Halloween binging covering every surface of unnamed child's room, closet, floor, and under the bed. I find the Kind bar wrapper and Coke Zero can a little ironic. This refuse is maddening as the "no food in your rooms" policy has been disregarded once again. I am thinking of buying this child an enormous trash bin for her birthday (and nothing else).

Other things I know (cognitively) are sheer textbook teen issues- such as my son's utmost embarrassment at everything I say and do. My feelings still get hurt when he asks me to drop him off at the bus before the field trip and not speak to anyone. I wish I didn't care, but I do. I am asking God for thicker skin. I need to be more like a cactus and less like an orchid. I hear that most likely we will get along well when he is twenty-five.

Somethings I know are just hard parts of the parenting job. Such as sticking to our guns (now on week three) of revoking phone privileges for a daughter who repeatedly chooses not to turn in assignments. Until she comes to terms with the black-hole sucking power of a zero and pulls her grades up, we will endure the mopey "I'm rotting" attitude that goes with banishment from social media and a rest stop on the electronic highway. Sleepover with your best friend? No. The answer to anything you want is "no" kiddo until you get this together. Mama ain't playin'!

Fitness battles when bright academic kids sit at a computer or play instruments most of the hours of their days. The cute (matching mine) fitness planner from Michaels mostly empty of food log entires. The treadmill still. The dog unwalked. Sigh. I can model. I can support. I can enforce. But the battle will be ultimately up to them. I hope they choose well.

When I start falling into the "not enough" parenting hole, all areas of my life start to be viewed through this filter. My friends spend enormous amounts of time on their wardrobes and pouring over blogs to have heir nests feathered in the latest Pinterest/HGTV fashion. I don't have time or energy to keep up or invest in such things. I love creativity. I love beauty, but I don't have enough margin for those pursuits right now. I don't want to feel frumpy, but I don't want to spend money on fashion that changes every season either. I get cheap thrills from consignment bargains. My beautiful home starts to look dusty and cluttered compared to the newly painted (and empty) home that my friend just bought. I know that I need to weed out our closets and deep clean the molding, but when would I do that? I'm even feeling edgy about Christmas which is still six weeks away!

Pfft!!! Pffft!

Extinguishing fiery arrows.

"Take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming arrows of the devil."

Ephesians 6:16



I take a deep breath and start to pray. Praying not so much in words as just coming and sitting before the Lord (while driving in silence on the way to pick someone up from some activity). Clearer thoughts begin to formulate:


I know that You love me and the life You have given me is a good one, even a privileged and charmed one as compared to so many who truly have struggles much greater than mine. I have years of lists of things I am thankful for and may need to pull them back out and review on the days when I just need to vent and reset. I let the tears trickle down my face and allow my messy child to hand me a paper-towel to wipe them away. I receive the goofiness of my husband as his version of "I'm (sort of) sorry I was a jerk" apology. I exchange my overly-sensitive hurt feelings for a truth walk: we are all works in progress and God will fix this is heaven. The days of perfection are coming. They are just not here yet.



"I used to dream about escaping my ordinary life, but my life was never ordinary. I had simply failed to notice how extraordinary it was."

Miss Peregrine's Home for Peculiar Children - Ransom Riggs

Asking God this month for eyes to see and ears to hear His goodness.

September this and that

 

Happy birthday, my teenaged son. We love you, and will continue to love you through all the teen boy ups and downs.

Coaster hair - What a scare!

Always hopeful that the Gamecocks will have a good game

Paintball strategists

Working on the art of organization

More working on the art of organization-

My name is Blurryface and I (don't really) care what you think.

Trying to give my strong "P" personalities some "J" survival skills before they leave and go to college and can't keep a roommate.

School projects

Hmmm... What are they teaching kids in schools these days?

Who is the kid that leaves two dribbles of milk instead of getting the next gallon? I need a kid cam to figure this mystery out.

Listening to Tim Elmore's videos on parenting and trying to instill godly work ethics and kids who can be resilient with life is not easy or entertaining.

An afternoon wedding (and college ministry reunion) in Edisto - happy to see "my" girls so happy in their adult lives