I skip ahead to the end of books (and am learning to make art)

I have a habit that confounds my friends. Once I am intrigued by a good book and emotionally involved in the characters, I almost always skip ahead to the end to see if everything turns out okay for them. It doesn't bother me a bit to know the ending. Once reassured, I feel as if I can better weather the peril that always happens in the middle, and take in more of the journey.

A friend recommended My Berlin Kitchen by Luissa Weiss to me this week. I have snuck away from family duties to read snatches of her memoirs, and found myself halfway through, last night, compelled to skip ahead to the end to see if she ever reconnected with Max.

This book combines each memory of her life spent between parents in Europe and America with a certain favorite recipe from that part of her life. I love the calming, beautiful way that she writes (and I have been looking up culinary terms right and left). And even though I will never make duck stuffed with a French farce, I feel more like cooking than I usually do. I even looked at the Wednesday recipes that come in the newspaper insert before recycling them. I considered buying leeks and artichokes before remembering that my family will not eat them at this time.

For her, cooking is a creative, expressive thing, and that somehow consoles me as I chop the necessary vegetables for a dinner salad. As if cooking dinner actually matters, not just because we have to eat, but because it can be something more if I let it and think about it in a different way...maybe with a little soothing Pandora radio playing in the background of my non-gourmet kitchen...a skill to honed...a craft...a creative outlet.

Emily Freeman has a new book out too, on making "art" with your life, whether it is trying a new recipe, sculpting, composing, or painting. Fall brings me the challenge of trying to choreograph this year's angels for our Singing Christmas Tree. Part of me is always concerned that what I think up in my head will be a flop when it comes time for the show. Part of me is worried that I have mixed motives in wanting the dance portions to be amazing and not just okay. God has been encouraging me through Emily's words and the reminders of friends that God has given me a gift to share. Now I'm praying for confidence to make art for Him without worrying and feeling insecure, especially when the ideas that come are new ones.

If you are worried that what you have to offer may not be enough, check out Emily's blog or new book A Million Little Ways. You can find her at chattingatthesky.com

http://www.chattingatthesky.com/2013/10/24/desires-vs-motives/

Here's one quote that helps me keep listening to Christmas CD's in the middle of October with fingers crossed that it will all turn out ok... and maybe even glorious:

"Do you believe that you have something to offer?

When you become aware of a scrap of a desire, do you toss it aside and label it selfish instead of considering it sacred?

Emily Freeman"

 

Meanwhile my daughters have been making myriads of rainbow loom art. See my bracelets below. This craze will probably go the way of silly bands and scratch-and-sniff sticker collections, but for now, I am happy to see them busily creating instead of surfing Netflix.

 

 

Pumpkins and Pansies

Now that I have traded in shorts and capris for jeans and long-sleeved t-shirts, it feels like fall.

We have pumpkins on our steps, dish towels, and soap dispensers. We add pumpkin spice to our home-brewed coffee and cover bagels with pumpkin cream cheese. We make pumpkin waffles for dinner and treat ourselves to a birthday pumpkin cake doughnut. Delicious fall.

State Fair Needtobreathe concert....even when the rain falls

And Carolina football

We wrapped up fall sports and are continuing with guitar, piano, and violin lessons, as well as play practice and beginning Singing Christmas Tree rehearsals.

My husband and son have decided that they are hunters and are now spending long hours in the swamp and woods in pursuit of the elusive "Ole Henry - the buck that got away". I thought the name of this deer blind was hysterical as my boys are often in the doghouse with me over scheduling conflicts of interest.

Our neighbors got married and shared this beautiful flower arrangement with us. We celebrated our 14th anniversary on the same day as N's 12th birthday.

I loved this looking "UP" themed card...about how being married to A has been the adventure of a lifetime.

Birthday celebrations with friends

A birthday allowance for ridiculous high-heeled tennis shoes

School uniform meets former European fashionista

 

 

 

Friends enjoying fall retreats and sleepovers and gallivanting around the fair

Junior Chefs learning how to clean up the disaster that is our kitchen whenever we bake up some birthday-anniversary love.

 

The Return

Sometimes I'm embarrassed. I learn something from God, and then find myself busy with life matters and have to return to the same lesson again and again. When I used to teach elementary school, we called this practice "spiral curriculum", because children often need reminders of subject material that has already been covered. Lately, like children, I have found myself in a refresher course of being alone and still before The Lord.

Things I know to do, and have done, but have strayed from. Not an intentional departure from spiritual habits, but more of a drifting away from a quiet, stilled place.

Returning to quiet dates alone with Jesus has been sweetness to my soul.

Keri Wyatt Kent outlines several spiritual practices in her book Oxygen: Deep Breathing for the Soul. When speaking of solitude she writes: " When we spend time alone with God, it is easier to carry Him in our hearts and minds when we are with other people."

My car wait time is becoming my sanctuary. A two hour wait for a daughter to get finished with a play practice becomes a parking lot sanctuary. Instead of seeing how many errands I can accomplish in that two hour window, I sit and breathe and read and think. My scratched up mini-van becomes a place of refuge and renewal where I can rest and not simply kill some time or pump up my sense of accomplishment with a long list of checked off activities.

MY peace I give to you... (John 14:27)

I have told you this so that MY joy may be in you and that your joy may be full. (John 15:11)

Keri notes that there is a difference between a life that is crammed full of busyness, and a life that is actually fulfilling. Busyness does not always equal spiritual abundance. Slowing down, paying attention, and sitting in quiet companionship with God allows my soul to breathe. You would think that breathing is not something that I would forget.

I glance at the clock and realize that my two hour window must come to a close. A child to pick up. A return drive home. There is dinner to fix and college girls to meet with, and all the preparations for the next day, but my soul is now ready to meet them with a sabbath smile.

 

Stillness and Simplicity

There is a war going on in my house. An epic battle of some sort between my boys and a friend involving Nerf guns and an iMovie app. I hear my oldest son, who takes the role of film director/commander of the universe, barking out orders. Heated discussion over lines of script and a high-pitched wail of "Why can't I be a Lego partner?" met with, "You're little so you have to be a zombie. You're the logical choice." The seven year zombie does not see the logic.

The timer buzzes on the oven. The coffee cake that my seven-year-old baker-in-training has made is now ready. We just cleaned up enough crumbs and flour to feed an army...perhaps the army that is fighting battles upstairs on their sleepover when they take a snack break.

The laundry chugs in the distance. My quiet time is anything but quiet, yet I submit my soul's attention to The Lord and meet Him in the middle of the happy chaos that is our life. Shrieks from attacking zombies shouting battle-cries, crumbs underfoot, a reminder that "he who calls his brother a jerk" is no longer allowed to play...all part of the fabric of a fall Saturday morning.

I read quiet words in John 14:

I will ask the Father to send you another Helper, the Spirit of Truth, who will remain constantly with you. (v.16)

The world will not see Me, but I will not vanish completely from your sight. (v. 19)

I will love you and reveal My heart, will, and nature to you. (v. 21, The Voice New Testament)

In stillness and simplicity my soul rests, even as my hands go about the business of folding laundry and sweeping crumbs. He is with me. He loves me. He will reveal his heart, will, and nature to me. And that is enough.

In stillness and simplicity
In the silence of the heart I see
The mystery of eternity
Who lives in side of me
In stillness and simplicity
I hear the Spirit's silent plea
That You, oh Lord, are close to me
In stillness and simplicity
You're the Word
Who must be heard
By those who listen quietly
Is the reason we're not still
To hear You speak because
We don't believe You will
In stillness and simplicity
I lose myself in finding Thee
Oh Lord, You mean so much to me
In stillness and simplicity
So, seek the One who dwells in you
The kingdom that within is true
That innermost reality
In stillness and simplicity

Michael Card - " In Stillness and Simplicity"

http://youtu.be/yNnbsEkpvZk

 

Colossians 3:15

New International Version (NIV)

15 Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful.

 

 

Mama Challenges

"Back to life....back to reality....back to the here and now."

My husband and I think it is hysterical to sing this song in the car on the return drive from any sort of trip. It embarrasses the tar out of our kids, which makes it even funnier to us. It is one of our secret joys in being half-crazy.

This week A hit the ground running, playing catch up and flying and driving here and there for work. Meanwhile back at the ranch, our sixth grader told us that her glasses were broken again and she had discovered that her biographical presentation on Sundar Singh was due...on a book that she hadn't finished reading and couldn't understand. Plus, she needed a costume!

Solidarity, Jenn Hatmaker! We read chapters out loud for hours before whipping up this sadhu get-up. One pillowcase, one flat sheet, and two safety pins from a no-sew mama!

My son announced at 9pm after his baseball game that he needed pictures printed of himself since he was the kid of the week at his school, and could I please bring ice-cream to his classmates and not lame snacks like I did last year (which I know is against the healthy snack policy, being in our 8th year at this school)! His head was itching, so could I check for lice, and could his friend spend the night on Friday? (Happy to report that we are louse-free.)

My daughter needed a poster board and a hot glue gun for her project and a lithium battery for her violin tuner and two bags of candy for a church retreat, and could we drive her friend home? We cracked up in the carpool line at a slightly irreverent Dave Barry column that her language arts teacher had modified to teach hyperbole. We just happened to have some poo-cappuccino in our pantry as a gift from friends who work in Indonesia. I sense a teacher gift coming on.

 

If you are in a punchy mood, check out this column from 1997:
http://www.davebarry.com/misccol/decaf.htm

(Please disregard all drug references)

A colleague needed someone to cover her class since she had a meeting she couldn't miss. My friend took my daughter home so that I could then cover for my colleague. It was a little circle of giving. I was thankful to be able to call upon people for help and to be able to help in return.

My biggest challenge spiritually on any given day is to shut off the inner logistics chatter in my brain. Even on a day when I am at home alone while the kids are in school, my thoughts are still very noisy. I have grown to love silence and solitude when it comes, folding endless loads of laundry like a nun who has taken a vow of silence. But, even if my environment is quiet, my thoughts still race 100 miles a minute...things to do...things I'd like to do...things I'm trying hard not to forget like the lithium battery and the CD's I requested from the library and the shirts that are now getting all wrinkly in the dryer.

Linda Dillow has a great chapter (3) on quieting the mind, soul, and body in her book Satisfy My Thirsty Soul. She writes:

" In this age of constant stimulus, clamor is pervasive and comes from many sources....My tiredness comes from the frantic pace of life around me....I fear we are becoming nervous, anxious, overactive people who don't know how to be still. We rarely give our attention to anyone or anything. We are always thinking ahead to the next thing that must be done, the next person we must talk to and check off our list. We do the same with God. We hurry to our "quiet time", which is anything but quiet. Our bodies sit, but our minds race." (p. 53)

I sat my Bible and journal down on a raggedy ottoman early in the morning thinking that I would momentarily be still before God...just after I made some coffee and threw the sheets in. Seven hours later, I did. Seven HOURS of laundry and email checking and check-writing, and taking care of business.

When I finally forced myself to "be still", I laid down on the carpet and stared at the ceiling exhausted, when I should have come for centering and refreshment all along. Sometimes I wake up with a crazy button of "let's clean the house and get some order around here" switched on. It's almost manic (and it's not even near spring)! In such a state, all I can offer God is my desire to sit still before Him. I can wrangle my body into an armchair, but then corralling my thoughts is a whole 'nother ball game. Yet, He is faithful. When I come to Him even with a frustrated cry of limitation and weakness, He helps me want Him. And then I remember that I want and need Him most.

 

 

Magical - after the vacation

I ran across this quote this week and liked the reminder to see beauty all around me.

"The really magical things are the things that happen right in front of you. A lot of the time you keep looking for beauty, but it is already there. And if you look with a bit more intention, you see it."

- Vik Muniz

I love looking at family photos and reliving the memories....moment by moment on ordinary "let's get the laundry and homework done and get some dinner on the table" days. As I put together a photo book,

I will remember:

The Davises having some "forced family fun" as my friend calls it!

 

 

L facing her fear of heights by taking the Summit Plummet challenge of dropping straight down 12 stories on a high water slide. We watched the people going before us in line and figured out that we could repeat our favorite Bible verse on facing fear (Psalm 56:3) and then the vertical drop 60 mph would be over. "When I am afraid I will trust in YOU!!!!!!!!!!!"

 

B happy to see exotic animals on safari, car chases and stuntman explosions at Hollywood Studios, and fire dancing at the luau.

MJ wanting to rock out and scream her head off at any rollercoaster as many times as the lines would allow.

N and W taking it all in as first timers. We went to It's a Small World first.

 

Scarfing handfuls of Halloween candy from trick-or-treating in the Magic Kingdom. Most likely the ONLY time we will all be dressed up for a costume party.

My man and I happily watching Fringe episodes in the comfy clean sheets and freezing AC after a long sweaty day in the parks with the refillable cocoa mugs from the resort...watching the fireworks from the balcony.

Hearing our kids remember to say "thank you".

Remembering when my parents brought me here when I was a kid.

 

Besides being able to give the gift of those memories to our children, I also love trying to take some of the magic with me and trying to learn from the creativity of others.

I have been inspired by a week of beautiful stage presentations. I am enamored with kite-like puppets and am trying to figure out how they could be incorporated into our Christmas productions. Nemo, Belle, Ariel, Simba, Fantasmic.... How might they be re-envisioned at the manger scene? I'm guessing spraying a wall of water in the sanctuary for light projections and aerial ballet are a no go this year? If not, what kind of magic could we make?

 

 

How to have fun at Disney when your family ditches you to go to the hotel pool

 

I love to travel. I get so excited to walk among replicas of great architecture with my camera, and smell great varieties of international foods cooking as I stroll the streets of Epcot or Animal Kingdom. My family doesn't share my love of cultural things or have any patience for my architectural interests. So, on our second day of Disney adventuring, after a quick trip to eat chocolate mousse in the French pavilion, they all voted to ditch me and my cultural pursuits for an afternoon at the hotel pool. I didn't buy the Food and Wine Festival ticket, but loved wandering among so many international people and seeing what was offered. So, we made plans to meet back up seven hours later for dinner.

On my own, I had fish and chips for lunch and shared my table with an English family. We chatted about family things and little differences between our languages. What we would call french fries they call chips. What we call chips, they call crisps. Our strollers are their push-carts and prams. I gave their nine year old some false information about how I thought she would really enjoy the Kim Possible cell phone quest, not realizing that the characters had been revamped and updated for a younger audience more familiar with Phineas and Ferb. Hopefully my new English friend figured it out and I did not lead them too far astray.

I talked with a Frenchman who was spending a year in Orlando to further his career with the Disney park in Paris. I was happy to find oval silhouette frames for sale which are difficult to find in SC at a little Parisienne kiosk. I meandered in and out of each country with no sense of hurry. Content to windowshop and smell lavender.

I watched Japanese drummers pound out rhythms, and Chinese acrobats spin one another. I watched an Italian mime and English actors draw random people into their dramas, soaking up the performing arts.

I browsed English tea shops and French patisseries, German Christmas stores, Mexican pyramids, Norwegian church replicas, Chinese grave statuary, and Moroccan bazaars. I stopped to read about how Eric the red was a pagan Viking, but his son Leif Ericsson became a Christian and went on to discover North America. I soared over California by myself and had a great day riding rides in the fast lane of single riders.

That evening my family returned for a really nice dinner together at Coral Reef restaurant. We watched sharks swim by in their enormous tank and enjoyed the Illuminations fireworks show afterwords. They asked if I was disappointed that they didn't spend the day with me. I told them that I would have loved to have shared the day with them, but that I was also quite able to be happy on my own. We did share magical moments, even if all of them were not together.

The ironic thing is that in their haste to return to the pool, they had a 45 minute wait for the bus and then had to hail a taxi. Should have stayed with me guys!